“My collection is so disorganized right now, it’s terrible. But usually it’s split into two sections: ‘hip-hop’ and ‘not hip-hop’” – Cosmo Baker
What are the Signs of Emotional Sobriety? • Ability to regulate strong emotions • Ability to regulate mood • Ability to maintain a perspective on life circumstances. • Ability to regulate potentially harmful substances or behaviors • Ability to live in the present • Ability to regulate activity levels.
• Ability to live with deep, intimate connection.
• Resilience, the ability to roll with the punches
• Ability to regulate behavior….tian dayton phd
this emotional sobriety thing becomes so friggin perplexing at times, that my mutterings the blog o sphere must seem like a broken record. it is said that life is a spiral which has us circling around and revisiting the same place as we try to ascend to the next level. this week brought me once again to a place that causes me to believe this theory to be true. for me, surviving the trauma that i have done has left imprints and some scars. i feel unlovable and broken as a first response to situations at times and then must steer my thinking and my my perceptions to a different place that holds more light. it takes some and it takes some damn presence of mind. it feels like a broken record, but i’m starting to believe the record is not broken but only scratched. (impish and joyful smile here)
“According to ancient philosophy life is not a cycle but a spiral. Every life lesson that has ever been presented to you will come back again, until you learn it. And the stakes each time will be higher. Whatever you have learned will bear greater fruit. Whatever you failed to learn will bear harsher consequences.
” Midlife is our second chance […] Whatever didn’t work in your life before this part, was a reflection of the fact that you hadn’t yet integrated the different parts of yourself. Where you didn’t yet accept yourself, you attract lack of acceptance.
“If you want to spend the years you have left reenacting the old drama of the past – you can. The same script be indeed coming around for your review. But if you want, you can take the script, and give it an awesome rewrite.” – Marianne Williamson “THE AGE OF MIRACLES”
i managed to avoid running which is my go to move. instead i reminded myself that i deserve to see things through a little further. i can’t really say whether progress is happening, but i am aware of a connecting thread that began in my past and has infiltrated my adult life. that thread has survived decades of volatility and helped keep me alive when sane thinking would have guessed otherwise.
i may not be well, but i’m certainly getting better and i’m grateful. really really grateful.
The drought was the very worst When the flowers that we’d grown together died of thirst It was months, and months of back and forth You’re still all over me like a wine-stained dress I can’t wear anymore
Hung my head as I lost the war, and the sky turned black like a perfect storm
Rain came pouring down when I was drowning That’s when I could finally breathe And by morning gone was any trace of you, I think I am finally clean
There was nothing left to do When the butterflies turned to dust that covered my whole room So I punched a hole in the roof Let the flood carry away all my pictures of you
The water filled my lungs, I screamed so loud but no one heard a thing
Rain came pouring down when I was drowning That’s when I could finally breathe And by morning, gone was any trace of you, I think I am finally clean I think I am finally clean Said I think I am finally clean
10 months sober, I must admit Just because you’re clean don’t mean you don’t miss it 10 months older, I won’t give in Now that I’m clean I’m never gonna risk it
The drought was the very worst When the flowers that we’d grown together died of thirst
Rain came pouring down when I was drowning That’s when I could finally breathe And by morning gone was any trace of you, I think I am finally clean
Rain came pouring down when I was drowning That’s when I could finally breathe And by morning gone was any trace of you I think I am finally clean Finally clean Think I’m finally clean Think I’m finally clean…taylor swift
and here is that taylor swift song recorded by ryan adams on his tribute album “1989”